Thursday, May 8, 2014

Seeing that happen everyday, including debates with some friends my man, makes me think, it was har

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One of the unpleasant experiences when to Turkey is to meet with the men in the feminist forum. Eits, not because they are handsome-looking, gentleman, and good-natured. Although three of the adjective is attached to them. Tapai important thing is it feels good to meet with the men who really understand women. Understanding women who I do not mean in the context of know how to treat women. But understand durban july fashion about how the situation of women in the middle of unequal power relations, a clear understanding of its clear-that women should get out of the situation, and even join fight.
For me it is difficult to find a man with perspective and understanding in Indonesia. I myself have many friends man. Many of them can one understand and fight together for other issues. But for women's issues, very few of them really understand. In fact, labeled human rights activists were often confined within patriarchal and feudal thinking. durban july fashion (Ah yes, just to remind you the truth, it does not happen to men only, but also not all women berpespektif feminist).
Some men interpret feminist women was limited to school, or a woman could be president. At a certain moment, a man who heard about the struggle of women against discrimination durban july fashion said, "Women want what else the? So women's career already, so the minister already, so the president also already. "Statement just shows that he did not understand about feminism durban july fashion and women's struggles.
The best example I like is how the relationship between husband durban july fashion and wife. If you feel your wife mengizinka feminists to work and have a career, it was not enough. Try to think, if one day, when your wife was about to reach his goal, and need your support to be ready? Again and again the support was of course not just permit, but how you can also support durban july fashion and backup to include him in household tasks. When your wife get a chance to achieve the ideals of magnitude, while he needs full support for it, and you have a little one that requires intense attention and treatment. Are you ready to stop work, to child care and household, so that your wife can freely pursue their aspirations?
Why? Because tasks and roles to assist, educate, and care of children not only in women. If all this is often the case, the woman who had been compromised, and compromising his ideals in order to totally take care of your child so that her husband could achieve my goals. Well, as long as it is done based on the awareness and choice, I really do not have a problem with it. But my point is, what if the situation was reversed? Because the right to have big goals, and get full support from the partner is also a woman's right.
No more talk about the division of tasks that are frozen through culture. I agree, that there should be a division of labor between husband and wife. But the division is not just a husband in the public sphere, and the wife in the realm of domestic or household. Both sides have the right to decide anything, and the deal is in their hands. The problem is, how many people durban july fashion can get out of the cultural paradigm messing ngotakan role of women and men to limit our choices? Can we unpack our paradigm that men are also entitled to be in the kitchen?
I have another example. When husband and wife both work, then does the wife have a public role. But in some cases, domestic roles was charged entirely to the wife. Working, taking care of children durban july fashion and household, without durban july fashion the help of her husband in domestic affairs. durban july fashion This one example multibeban name for women. Can not we share the task as well as to take care of domestic affairs. Not just because (for example) the wife a salary greater than the salary of the husband. But again, because of the awareness, that his true job description is based on our collective consciousness and choice.
Seeing that happen everyday, including debates with some friends my man, makes me think, it was hard to find a man who really understands durban july fashion women. Therefore, when the men met at an event titled Feminist Technology Exchange, makes me think there is hope, that there are some men who truly understand women in this world.
Oh yeah, one thing I need to emphasize, this article was not to say that the next man to be in the kitchen, while the women's pursuit of big goals. Because feminism does not require discrimination turned to the man. The key, how do we do sit together, parallel, and agree together and draw up plans anyway. And once

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